The Back Of Your Head is “Riddddiccculuuuussss”:
So I was on a coaching call with a client yesterday afternoon and we were running through his last weekend out. I wanted to go through his interactions with women so I could find out what things I could help him improve on so he could get more of the results he wanted out of his dating and social life.
Not surprising, he wanted to get more dates. I asked him if he was getting numbers from the girls he was talking to. He told me he got 2 numbers that weekend. I immediately asked him when the dates were with these girls. He told me he hadn’t set any up yet.
This is a HUGE mistake most guys make. They wait until the end of the conversation to get a girls number and then think they will set up the date eventually over text or the phone.
This is a very ineffective strategy and here are a few reasons why.
Why Waiting Until She Is Leaving Is a Bad Idea:
- The end of the conversation may be an inopportune time. What if her friends come and drag her away and you don’t have time to get her #?
- By waiting until the end it looks as if getting her # was the goal of the entire interaction, not genuinely getting to know her.
- Numbers gained at the end of a conversation are much more likely to flake because the emotions she was feeling when she gave you her # were not solidified and are much more likely to wear off.
- Waiting until the end can make you anxious about getting the #, causing you to act awkward and keeping you from being in the moment and making a genuine connection with her.
This is not to say that you cannot get a girl’s # on the fly. There are definitely circumstances when one or neither of you has the time to sit around and build a connection. Perhaps you met her on the subway and it is now her stop and she needs to get off. No worries – there are a some powerful ways to still build attraction and set a date using techniques in Text That Girl.
So if getting a girls number at the end of the conversation, like most guys do, is not the best time then when is?
I am glad you asked!
The correct answer is you shouldn’t even be worrying about the number! You should be setting the date.
But how do I set the date Race?
Huddle in and I will tell you. When the conversation is going along smoothly and you can tell she is digging you, go ahead and introduce an activity that you would like to do with her. Say, for example, you are an ice-cream fiend. Simply ask her, “Do you like ice-cream?” (Duh – what girl doesn’t like ice-cream?). When she says yes ask her, “What’s your favorite flavor of ice-cream?”. When she answers, run away screaming…j/k … Simply, tell her about this awesome Ice Cream spot you know of. Really build it up as the most awesome Ice cream spot on the planet. You gotta sell this shiznit. Get her excited!
Then stop…look at her…and say, “You know what, I am going to take you next week. You HAVE to try their clown flavored ice-cream (or whatever flavor she likes)…it’s the best in town.” How about (insert day of the week or lunar cycle)?”
When she agrees, bingo bango date set. Can you guess what comes next? Yup, NOW you exchange numbers. It only makes sense right? Now that you have a date set you will need a way of communicating in case she gets lost or one of you is running late. Now the number becomes a side note. No pressure. Go ahead and let out a sigh of relief.
Want to know why focusing on the date instead of the number is so cool? Well for starters, you don’t have to spend the next 2 weeks trying to coordinate a date over text. Instead you can use that time to build up more attraction so that when she does meet you on the date she already has her googly eyes out. Not to mention it just feels good leaving an interaction with an awesome girl knowing you have a fun date in your calendar and not just a crumpled slip of paper in your pocket.
btw I just got a text while writing this from my client and guess how his weekend went? He has 2 dates set up for this week. Smart!
Race de Priest